Caring for kinship or adopted children is a deeply rewarding experience, but it can also require significant emotional and physical energy. It’s natural to put your child’s needs first, but it’s equally important to prioritize your own well-being. Self-care isn’t selfish. It’s necessary. When you’re well, you’re able to give your best to your child, and that benefits your whole family.

Start by setting realistic expectations for yourself. No one can do it all perfectly, and you don’t need to either. If you make a mistake–and we all do–give yourself grace. Learn from it, make a plan to do better next time, and move on. Focus on what matters most: providing love, stability, and support for your child, not striving for perfection.

Carve out a little time each day just for you. Even a few minutes can make a difference. Sip your coffee while it’s still hot, take a quick walk, or read a chapter of a good book. These small breaks might seem insignificant, but over time they help you recharge and stay resilient. 

It also helps to connect with others who understand what you’re going through. Support groups for kinship and adoptive caregivers are excellent spaces to talk through challenges, celebrate victories, and gain perspective. Talking to someone who’s been through similar situations can be incredibly helpful. If you can’t meet in person, online groups are a great alternative. 

Don’t forget about resources like respite care or family support programs. They exist  for you too, not just your child. Taking advantage of these services can give you a breather without guilt. And if you’re feeling emotionally overwhelmed, consider talking to a counselor. A good therapist can help you process your feelings and develop strategies for managing stress. 

Another thing to try? Mindfulness and gratitude. Journaling, meditating, or simply reflecting on what’s going well can shift your focus from challenges to the positives. Celebrate small victories--whether it’s your child learning a new skill or you are managing a tough day with grace. Those little moments of joy can refill your emotional tank.

Remember, self-care doesn’t have to be fancy. It’s about finding what nurtures you and making it part of your routine. When you prioritize yourself, you’re better equipped to care for your child—and that’s a win for everyone. So, go ahead. Make self-care non-negotiable. You deserve it, and so does your family.